I know some people can’t grasp the idea of being alone in a “special” day like Valentine’s Day, and I don’t know why, to be honest. But I am being selfish here; not everyone thinks the way I do, and that’s fine. The only thing I’d like to say is that you matter.
There’s always someone waiting out there for you (as long as you’re not an asshole, and as long as you are being true). Remember that Valentine’s Day is just a normal day, and if no one is there by your side maybe that person will come next month; maybe your birthday, or Christmas. It doesn’t matter if it isn’t a “special” day.
Not counting parents, whenever we talk about our first love we always think about our first girlfriend, or maybe our first kiss. The truth is that there’s someone that we MUST learn to love before anyone else in order to be better when the right person comes. Who’s that, you ask? Ourselves.
Believe it or not, self-esteem is important. Without self-esteem it’s harder to approach a girl or a boy. And if you don’t approach that person, that person is not going to wait for you. We’re not protagonists of the Earth, and the world keeps moving even if you keep quiet. Love starts with ourselves. Once we learn how to love ourselves, we’ll be ready to love someone else.
Another day, just that
Need a lot of emphasis that Valentine’s Day is just another day. Just like any other holiday. Sure, some holidays may be important to you because you had a lot of great memories of your childhood, and that’s fine. Personally, I love Christmas so much–I don’t celebrate it, but Lord, I LOVE CHRISTMAS DECORATIONS. In the end, though, it’s just another day.
Valentine’s Day is just a title for February 14th, and one shouldn’t feel forced to be with someone to enjoy it. Yeah, everyone gets massacred with romantic ads, couples wearing red while grabbing hands, kissing, and walking in the park (under the rain sometimes). And it actually happens that some folks get affected by it: they fall into the impression that if no one is with them on that specific date, they’ll be alone forever. And that’s not it. Or it’s worse when some people genuinely enjoy their solitude, friends or acquaintances start acting as retards trying to make them feel as if solitude was something bad. Believe it or not, friends, there are people out there that TRULY wants to be alone. And you know what I meant, I don’t think I need to explain it doesn’t mean they’d act as Gollum (The Hobbit, The Lord of the Rings). These people have friends and family, but they don’t need to see them every week to feel good.
Personally, I see my friends once or twice a month, and that’s more than enough for me.
Being single is nothing wrong, even if you’re 20, 30, 40 or whatever. If you want to be alone, it is okay, that doesn’t make you a bad person. You matter.
And if you want to find someone, learn how to love yourself first and then go look for the person that makes you happy. but DO NOT FORCE anyone to be with you, and be yourself, authentic, that’s the only way you’ll know if one person wants to be for you. Someone’s always there.